JUST STOP OIL, PLEASE JUST STOP!

Tarin is all for a good protest, protecting the world, protecting jobs, protecting lives, ending fox hunting and protecting the right to wild camp. Yay! Go Team! this is all good. but then…

Ok the way tarin sees it is, you got the smart and safe protesters and the dumb and dangerous ones, and there’s one particular group of dumb and dangerous protesters one group that are now starting to really get on tarins nerves.

Of course you know tarin is talking about the “Just Stop Oil” idiots (the title of the blog probably clued you in). tarin can really understand why people are getting annoyed with them and their stupid stunts.

Tarin isn’t on about them glueing themselves to stuff and throwing soup about, though there are families that could do with that soup, wasteful, but this stuff is not the big issue here, the issue is the stopping of traffic, sitting in the middle of roads and motorways, climbing around on motorway signage, that is the stuff we are talking about. So …

Dear “Just Stop Oil” protesters of the dumb and dangerous variety,

tarin can sit here and lecture you about how every time you cause traffic problems you could be diverting an emergency services vehicles, taking precious seconds from their response time, meaning they are taking longer to get to the emergency, meaning the longer they take the more likely someone could suffer a more life changing injury/illness or die. that person that you just killed could well be a none dumb and dangerous “Just Stop Oil” protester who does their thing via a blog or YouTube.

Nor is tarin going to lecture you about how the people you could be holding up are doctors, nurses or care workers, or support and social workers trying to get to their disabled clients, who depend on that support so they can get things done at home, or get to doctor appointments and diabetes checks and occupational therapy appointments.

Nor is tarin going to nag you about how you could be pissing off simply the average Joe or Josephine trying to pick up the kids from school or baby sitter, or are just wanting to get home after a long hard slog.

And tarin is definitely not going to tell you how your actions may be causing rage inside people who might drive angry (bad idea) or just stop driving and decide to get out their cars and kick your arses (or just run over your foot)…and that’s understandable, though not advisables.

tarin is not gonna sit here and type all those long lectures and thousands more we could all think of and try to appeal to your better and more sensible nature, because you obviously haven’t got one of those. You are just selfish, dangerous, idiots and that is why you and your cause do not matter to most people.

That’s right, this letter is to tell you that, to the world at large, YOU AND YOUR CAUSE JUST DON’T MATTER! How do you like that?

Because of all the trouble you cause, because of all the danger you put people in, because of your lack of consideration for anyone but yourselves and your protest, you don’t matter, people laugh at you because of the dumb stuff you do and despise you because of the dangerous stuff you do.

In short you are drawing the worst kind of attention to yourselves and so many people don’t care and don’t want to listen to you or support you because of the ways you try to be heard.

We see your faces for two seconds in a news report, then we forget them, we say “pfft, them again.” and then we get annoyed over the trouble you cause and that little fire of rage burns, the one where we just want to slap your butts into a cell and leave you to rot, not one where we want to help you and take action. That doesn’t even cross most of our minds.

WWF have Earth Hour, LGBTQ+ has stuff like Pride and TDOR amongst other things, tarin will not list every organisation, and the ways in which they raise awareness and make the their voices heard, but to tarin’s knowledge, they don’t purposely go out risking lives to do it. so what tarin is saying to you is, There has to be a better way…FIND IT . Then maybe people will be willing to listen and take you more seriously.

The world is important, the environment is important, and yeah, oil bad and alternatives need to be found, but how? What? Where? well truth is tarin isn’t intelligent enough to answer any of that. Are you Just Oil Protestors, are you intelligent enough to answer how we can make medical devices, that we make out of plastic , (which many plastics, oil is a big ingredient isn’t it?) without plastic without oil?

If you are smarter than us, teach us, if you have another way, show us, if you want to find a way together, ask us to help, to work with you. but don’t endanger us or those we love and care for, with your dumb and dangerous protests please.

Just think about it, please.

Best Wishes

Tarin.

PET PEEVES. PET PEEVE ONE: THE PITY PARTY.

So yeah tarin has a list of pet peeves, the annoying little niggle things that put a bug up his butt that people do, say or whatever, tarin also is guilty of these pet peeves at some point in his life, but as he is trying to fit in at least a little with you humans and he shares your awesome planet if not your awesomeness, he feels no shame in being a little bit of a hypocrite from time to time.

These pet peeves blogs are gonna be coming up from time to time and they are not in any order of any kind, just ones tarin wants to write about whenever he feels like writing about them. With that said lets get started on todays pet peeve.

The pet peeve for today is “The Pity Party”. tarin has had a tough life, having been through multiple abuses at the hands of multiple people and there was a time he loved a pity party, he was an idiot, but the truth is whenever he told the dinner ladies at primary school or people at the child psych day centers or mostly anybody really, about the abuse he went through, he would get a lot of “oh you poor thing” and even the odd cuddle, and he loved it.

Cuddles at home were mostly none existent and after watching Sandra (biological mother) turn on her P.P.A.G.T. (Pity Party Attention Grabbing Technique) (mostly for the milkman, the vicar and any authority figure, especially males), tarin learned some tricks and words from her. so puppy eyes, sorrowful voice and magic words like “sexually abused” amongst others, and tarin put it to practice to get those cuddles elsewhere. The truth is tarin didn’t even know what “sexually abused” or the other words Sandra used, meant! he had no fucking clue! He just knew it got people to feel sorry for him and give him cuddles, Not Sandra or anyone had ever educated tarin or explained to him what the deal was.

So, a little history:The first time tarin had told Sandra about what Keith (biological father) had done to him, there was a black and white movie on the T.V, and this man and woman were snogging and tarin said excitedly “daddy does that with me”. Sandra told tarin to stop lying and basically that was that. The time she had to take tarin seriously though, well tarin and Keith were in the bathroom and Keith was sat on the loo his pants down and tarin was sat on his lap, bottom half naked, tarins little brother who was about 3 going on 4 at the time, came crawling up the stairs and Keith told him “come here _____ daddy wants to show you something”. so tarin got pissed off, jumped away from Keith and grabbed his little brother and slid down the wooden un-carpeted stairs on his butt with his brother on his lap and then stood up and ran away outside to hide little brother. daddy was tarins, and little brother was mummy’s, that’s the way it was. and that’s what got Keith caught. he got greedy and tarin got jealous. (no Sandra wasn’t abusing little brother to tarins knowledge, Sandra just seemed to like little brother better.)

The reason tarin told you that little history is so you understand that in truth, tarin didn’t really understand a goddam thing about his life as a child. He knew what had happened, but he didn’t know it was bad or illegal, he was just pissed Keith was bringing little brother in, in fact tarin was so clueless he was abused by two other males later when he was about seven and nine or something, something he didn’t tell Sandra about, because any time people showed tarin affection or just a little attention, Sandra did not like him getting attention because it was her that should get it, not him, but that’s another story, so when it came to the pity party thing, he just knew words like “daddy sexually abused me” got him sympathy and cuddles, in other words a pity party.

tarin is annoyed to inform you that this went on for some years, and the more new words he learned and the more he learned about what he was going through and had been through, the more effectively he was able to use them to get cuddles and or attention that he desired at the time. in short a pity party. he was even accused of “liking playing the victim”, which is only a half truth. it wasn’t that he liked being a victim, he just liked attention and cuddles and he had been taught, indirectly, the P.P.A.G.T. was the way to go.

So fast forward to his mid to late teens and tarin was starting to learn a horrible truth. the pity party wasn’t all it was cracked up to be, most of the “there, there, you poor thing.” bullshit people spake, was just that, bullshit. tarin was looking for cuddles and attention, but actually all he had ever got was bullshit.

Sometimes it was people trying to be kind and meaning well, sometimes it was people being dicks, but either way, it was always bullshit. Annoying, hurtful and soul crushing, bullshit.

It wasn’t long after that, that tarin thought, balls to this, tarin doesn’t want this crap. And pity parties became something he hated with a passion. Having a bad day and sharing it with friend and or family is fine, a little tea and sympathy is no bad thing, and tarin believes it’s actually rather healthy, like owd Bob would say “it’s good to talk!”. However the full on pity party. No thank you.

Now to recent yesterdays, today, and days yet to come , however many there may be, of tarins life.

Some may argue that tarin still does love a pity party, he threatens suicide, talks of suicide, he has mad meltdowns and goes all crazy. You may even call him a drama queen. You wouldn’t be wrong about the drama queen thing. Tarin has in the past been diagnosed with P.T.S.D. and Borderline Personality Disorder or as it is know here Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, this means, that through no fault of his own, tarins emotions run a lot higher than many peoples, it is also not something tarin can control.

So in tarins opinion anyone with B.P.D/E.U.P.D. maybe even people living with Bipolar Disorder, we could, in laymans terms, be Medical Grade Drama Queens, what else is a drama queen if not an expresser of melodramatic emotion?, that’s what it says drama queen-ism is, in some dictionary on the web, the difference between us with the medical grade drama queen-ism and the ones just being drama queens for the sake of it, is we are not doing it on purpose to be dicks and we can’t always help much how we express if we can help it at all, it would also be good for you to remember we are not just over emotional with bad days but also good days too, we got tonnes of love to give as well as the stress we put you poor normies through.

So when you have a crappy day and talk about going home and sleeping until tomorrow, tarin will say, “fuck this,, gonna throw self under a bus”, and so you may think tarin is wanting a pity party and the “there there, we love you” bullshit starts. some people mean well others don’t but the thing is tarin was just venting and expressing, just in a different way to you, a more dramatic way because he is highly emotional, he’s not looking for a pity party, so either way, the lies hurt. tarin knows you don’t mean what you say. When tarin harms himself it’s usually because he is so crazed with emotion he doesn’t know what else to do, he’s not looking for a pity party, he has just lost control of his emotions.

tarin hates pity parties, pity parties are thrown by liars (well meaning or not) and those lies are believed by fools. it is that simple. tarins expressions of emotions are real and the only way he knows to express or cope, the lies of the pity party throwers are that, lies, and tarin is not fool enough to believe them.

At the end of the day a slap from a friend is better than a kiss from an enemy, and if you are someone who claims to care but you throw a pity party of lies for anyone you are their enemy not their friend,

that’s not to say you should belittle or be mean to someone over being a medical grade drama queen because of their high emotions, their emotionally unstable personality disorder, or whatever is going on, it just means, if you are their friend, if you care, as hard work as we can be, we just need to be understood a little better. And the reason tarin says “we” is because there are lots of us that people throw pity parties for, who don’t like them. Reaching an understanding is key here. Saying that, it’s different horses for different courses so maybe some do like the pity party, however tarin is not one of them.

have a great day, love and best wishes,

from, tarin. xx

MEAT LOAF.

It’s pretty common knowledge by now that a god amongst rockers, and people of all genders alike, has shuffled off the mortal coil and gone on to whatever afterlife (if there is one) he has gone on to.

There are going to be a whole bunch of people in the media talking about his great achievements, his gold and platinum discs, and the hits he had and the ones he didn’t, for a while….at least for the next day or two… the media is so fickle and only stay on a band wagon as long as they can make it work for them. But the truth is half of the buggers going on about him know crap all about Meat Loaf and are severely understating the man and the music as well as his acting. To be honest even Tarin is no mastermind when it comes to Meat Loaf.

To Tarin, Meat was one of the greatest performers, his singing amazing and powerful, his performance in music videos and at concerts (from videos Tarin saw), were almost as much a play or movie as they were anything else. However, that wasn’t the best thing about Meat Loafs music.

One of the things Tarin doesn’t love is cleaning, but when tarin does have a good spring clean, the only sounds to go on are the sounds of Meat Loaf and some of his greatest, best known, rockingest hits.

Years ago when Tarin was much younger, he was asked by a friend to look after her two kids for a little while, now these kids hated cleaning their rooms at home, so when Tarin told them to help him clean his little 1 bed flat/apartment to earn their cartoon watching privileges there were complaints, they were kids, of course there would be. The biggest complaint? “Cleanings boring.” Yeah? Not the way tarin did it. Together tarin and the kids picked out a CD, Tarin strongly suggested Meat Loaf, a greatest hits album tarin thinks, anyway he told the kids, put on the CD and crank it up and he would get the cleaning stuff.

For those that don’t know what a CD is it  was like a shiny record with music recorded onto it, they came into being somewhere between, shortly after the dark ages of the cassette tape, and before mans greatest discovery since the bubble for the spirit level, (so hypnotic), the mp3.

Anyways we played that CD, we blasted out those tunes, and we danced like chipmunks on too much caffeine, with sweeping brushes and hoovers and as we dusted. It was awesome fun, and a great laugh, house work took longer but it was worth it, especially because afterwards peace and quiet fell upon the household as the kids took a nap because they were so exhausted from cleaning and dancing like madness itself.

There is a little more to this tale but maybe another time. For now Tarin just wants to say Meat Loafs music, to Tarin is a legacy that will not soon be forgot by all of Meats fans, not for its awards or accolades, not for it’s position in the charts, but for how emotive it was, how deep some of it was, and how, when he performed, the man, Meat himself, sang each note like it was a testament of love to music as a whole.

Tarin hopes you will join him in sending love and wishes to everyone who loved Meat Loaf as a musician and actor, and most importantly to Meat Loafs  family and friends and all others who loved him.  Please take care of yourselves and each other.

xxx